STFU Usher!

Keane I am so opposite but I hear ya. Most of the women I have been interested are super feminine, and the men super masculine. I think those polarized aspects of humanity are part of what attracts me. I am not interested in a woman who looks like a man, I would rather just have a man who looks a man, ya know. But different strokes, ya know!

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This is a really cool thread.

I wish you all could talk to my friends that are sweating being single and let them know that it is not only okay, but better than settling just to fit a societal norm. I try to tell them but it sounds hypocritical because I am not currently single. I guess they will just have to find out for themselves...

Viva La Lohan - that's interesting, we're all different I guess. I'm a girl who likes girl bits and for whom the male bits do nothing for me whatsoever. Even when I've found a man very good-looking, extremely charismatic etc etc I just can't fancy 'em. WHen a friend of mine asks me if I fancy a certain man and when I think about it for too long she says "wrong genitals?" and I say yeah! I need the lady parts and the breasts you see. The only thing I fancy about men are strong muscular arms - but I prefer them on a girl. Penises have never done a thing for me!

Submitted by Clarisse on June 17, 2008 - 5:36pm.
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Rapey McRapist was a dog long before I came into the picture, having cheated on every single girlfriend he ever had. Anyway, immediately after using me like a human toilet seat, he got into a "serious" relationship (before he pulled the date rape stunt, by the way) where he was going to be 100% faithful to his 30 yr old, abstinent girlfriend - lol. He kept throwing it up in my face that he was going to marry this girl and two seconds later, he was screwing someone else. Apparently, he wasn't feeling her anymore and it had nothing to do with the fact that she wouldn't sleep with his triflin' ass, lol. So after becoming Rapey McRapist, he jumps into another relationship that's "serious" and is now engaged...yeah, until he decides to date rape someone else. THAT'S pathetic. Your brother may be married to a bitca, but be glad that he's not a predator.

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Submitted by Viva La Lohan on June 17, 2008 - 5:36pm.
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ITA. It is refreshing.

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"Tact is just not saying true stuff - I'll pass."

QueenCharisma,
My brother (the war vet) is TERRIFIED to be alone. Sooo, he's married to a bitch.

I never got those people that would rather be in a bad relationship than be alone.

There are people in my life that give me everything i need without the bullshit lies and mental exhaustion.

I'm ok where i am. =)

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Dunno why, but I love this thread

It's so refreshing to see all these strong women who ARE OK BEING SINGLE not chasing behind folks who don't want them or obsessing over the fact that they don't have somebody. Women who are not scared to be themselves and do what they want to do in their lives with no concern for what society says is right get me all excited!

If only there were more strong women in the world. I am so very tired of the weak ones.

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Clarisse,

"He was a prick on a stick."

LMAO!!! THAT was brilliant.

It is a great thing that there are people out there like us who don't need to constantly be up under someone to validate our existence. I know plenty of people like that in my every day life (my aunt being one of 'em) and it's really very sad to see.

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I feel bad for those women. Sure, I get lonely sometimes (especially around holidays and my birthday), but then I think about the constant aggravation and tears I had off and on for almost 2 years of my life on that prick on a stick, Rapey McRapist and I get over it. Nobody is worth that much drama and being single spares me the trouble of having to deal with somebody else's shit. I love that. And it's really sad that there are women out there who think the only thing they have of substance/value in this world lies between their legs. Embrace spinsterhood ladies and go on about your business! If love is going to happen for you, eventually it will.

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Keane I hear what you are saying but even within the hetero sphere of things... One guy might make my goods quiver and the other make me want to throw up. Likewise, two people standing next to each other, one male, one female have the same odds of attraction and revulsion. Attraction can be based on so much more than what is dangling (or not dangling!) between the legs.

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Submitted by Viva La Lohan on June 17, 2008 - 4:52pm.
CMS - "My views on who I am able to love are vastly different from most people. I believe, it is very easy to love someone regardless of who they are or what gender they are. I do not classify myself as gay or lesbian because I lack a natural inclination towards women. But I believe it is possible to love someone of the same gender if you are compatible with them in other ways. As Yoda said in star wars, "we are not this crude matter" LOL"
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That is exactly how I would describe myself. I have a great man right now, but I felt the same way when I fell for a great woman, even though I don't exactly call myself gay. Great post and you keep doing what you do because by the sound of things you seem to be happy so why change your life just so you can say you got somebody!
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Submitted by Viva La Lohan on June 17, 2008 - 4:52pm.
CMS - "My views on who I am able to love are vastly different from most people. I believe, it is very easy to love someone regardless of who they are or what gender they are. I do not classify myself as gay or lesbian because I lack a natural inclination towards women. But I believe it is possible to love someone of the same gender if you are compatible with them in other ways. As Yoda said in star wars, "we are not this crude matter" LOL"
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That is exactly how I would describe myself. I have a great man right now, but I felt the same way when I fell for a great woman, even though I don't exactly call myself gay. Great post and you keep doing what you do because by the sound of things you seem to be happy so why change your life just so you can say you got somebody!
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Woah I really don't get that finding it possible to love someone of either sex thing. For me its purely a biological urge and the choice is completely out of your hands. Its all about the genitals. One kind make me go yum and the other kind make me go yuck, or at best, yawn. I don't understand how someone could fall for someone of the same sex unless they considered themselves gay or bisexual. Please enlighten me!

Submitted by QueenCharisma on June 17, 2008 - 3:02pm.

You are very right. I agree that love and romance aren't for everyone. Life isn't a Disney movie afterall. :)

I'm actually kind of suprised (in a good way) to hear women embracing singlehood. I am used to women bitching about it and trying desperately to find a man.

QC,
"There's no one on the planet strong enough to put up with me, lol."

Brilliant!!

I'm a bit of a force myself. The last relationship i had was 6 years ago. Then i was done. He was a prick on a stick.

Some people just don't need someone else to make them happy.

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wow! i don't know anything about this guy(and don't care to)but, it's astounding how in one sentence he could prove to me that he's a complete jackass

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"Life is a short, warm moment,
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WTF?

Usher married a tranny, what the hell does he know.

Can we just put Usher, Kanye, Blohan, Shitney, Wino, and Parasite in a garbage bag and kick it to the curbside?

Submitted by Cocoa Mocha Sugar on June 17, 2008 - 4:51pm.
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I hope that's true (the success thing) because I have a shoe addiction I need to be able to support, lol.

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Submitted by Karma Police on June 17, 2008 - 4:50pm.
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Thanks. And I get what you're saying, but I just don't think that love and romance are for everybody. I'm one of those people that just don't function well with others. I'm socially awkward and extremely combative, so my volatile personality is a tough pill to swallow. There's no one on the planet strong enough to put up with me, lol. I've embraced that fact and will just keep doing me because I honestly can't see myself changing that much.

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"Tact is just not saying true stuff - I'll pass."

"Great post and you keep doing what you do because by the sound of things you seem to be happy so why change your life just so you can say you got somebody!"
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Bingo Viva. Don't know how i missed your post earlier.

Submitted by Cocoa Mocha Sugar on June 17, 2008 - 4:20pm.
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No, it isn't just you. I'm 21 and have never had a boyfriend either. I did make the mistake of losing my virginity to a self-absorbed asshole and then when we "broke up", got date raped by that same loser so now I've officially given up on the male species. I'm perfectly happy being single and like you said, I have all the time in the world to focus on things that enrich my life (reading, writing, shopping, traveling, etc.). I'm sure there may be some good men out there, but unfortunately, I think I'm destined to lead my mother's very single life.

*Had to edit because I can't spell, lol.

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her husband is a millionaire so that makes her a m illionare. i doubt she's going to shop on her old beautifician salary. when you're married, the funds are community property meaning his income is her income and vice versa.

and of course she's going to have that look in her eye. she just snagged a good man. lol.

Oh yes, the problem is we don't have enough men running around to satisfy women. What a fucking douche.

CMS - "My views on who I am able to love are vastly different from most people. I believe, it is very easy to love someone regardless of who they are or what gender they are. I do not classify myself as gay or lesbian because I lack a natural inclination towards women. But I believe it is possible to love someone of the same gender if you are compatible with them in other ways. As Yoda said in star wars, "we are not this crude matter" LOL"
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That is exactly how I would describe myself. I have a great man right now, but I felt the same way when I fell for a great woman, even though I don't exactly call myself gay. Great post and you keep doing what you do because by the sound of things you seem to be happy so why change your life just so you can say you got somebody!

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indeed. mother has been single my whole life too. so it's a generational thing, being passed down frmo mtoher to daughter. lol.

one thing i also noticed is that, those of us who remain single are always slightly more succesful due to not having someone dragging us down emotionally, and sometimes even financially.

Oh please. Check out that look in her eye in the above picture. She knows she hit the jackpot. She's also clearly high-maintenance for the looks of her.
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Submitted by QueenCharisma on June 17, 2008 - 2:42pm.

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That's really sad- I'm sorry.

When I was 21, I thought the exact same thing. I was pretty scarred over my father cheating on my mother and swore I'd be single forever. Since then, I was very nearly engaged and now am deeply in love with another guy. My point is that you shouldn't give up on love because you are very young. Definitely keep having fun being single and finding yourself!

there's no evidence to support that his wife is a gold digger. why do people hate her so much? Like she said in essence magazine, people dislike her because she's dark skinned. they feel like he should have married a light skin black woman with a thinner body because dark skin black women are not accepted. and it definitely looks worse because she had kids already.

it's stupid, he loves her, people should leave it at that.

Submitted by NOT IMPRESSED on June 17, 2008 - 3:25pm.

He needs to think about WHY he has to keep defending her...

Could it be because she's an ugly old gold-digging whore who even his mother hates?

Hmmmmm, I'm thinking so.

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It's like judging ducks before they become swans...its stupid. -HA

Viva, I am open to whoever is capable of loving me and is a good person regardless of race, as long as we are compatible and like and admire each other.

My views on who I am able to love are vastly different from most people. I believe, it is very easy to love someone regardless of who they are or what gender they are. I do not classify myself as gay or lesbian because I lack a natural inclination towards women. But I believe it is possible to love someone of the same gender if you are compatible with them in other ways. As Yoda said in star wars, "we are not this crude matter" LOL

I am very comfortable in my own skin and I don't look for relationships, I probably lack an interest in them now, being so used to doing things on my own. I guess I have accepted my spinsterhood and genuinely don't care.

I make myself happy in other ways.

I agree with Usher, that there is a quiet movement among black women becoming lesbian. I hear from relatives in chicago that it is all the rage to the point of being a "fad". But mostly, because black women don't have real men to be with and they have more reason to feel more secure with each other .

Usher wasn't referring to gay people in general, but black women. His comments should be viewed in the context of being a black man.

Oh Ursher...he wants me to quit liking him I swear.

Dude needs to go back to ripping off MJ and quit with the social commentary.

All you wimmens waiting for a good man... keep at it. I just got married at the ripe old age of 35. First marriage for both of us. I waited forever, and it was worth it. :)

(I didn't wait to do sexy times, mind you, but I did wait to settle down with a good guy.) :)

When did he get so weird? It was funny when he freaked out on TRL trying to defend his wife. They showed that shit on The Soup a couple weeks back. I love Joel McHale...

Submitted by Cocoa Mocha Sugar on June 17, 2008 - 1:09pm.

I was like that for a while too, CMS, I would go 2 years with out because I am not much of a one night stand gal and was waiting for a good one. Can I ask if you only date black men? There are still good ones out there, in every race, it's just that it isn't cool to be a good man. The womanizing fast car and faster women lifestyle or even worse the thuggin' gang banging bullshit is what they see and it's perceived as weak to be kind and intelligent and affectionate, especially with black men.

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indeed ladies. Thanks, because your insights make me feel better about it and then, to know it is not just me! which is how so many of us feel.

and i might add, as a result of my imposed spinsterhood lol -- i've become more well rounded. i have more time to work on myself, more time to read, more time to become more educated, painting, writing, etc. So in a way, it's been good for me.

I did settle once, married young, divorced at 23, I have children. So my life is not so incomplete. just no one to share it with.

But again, I'll take the peace of mind I have any day, over a bad relationship with a no-good man.

Cocoa Mocha Sugar and sharmaine summed it up. It's not about quantity, it's about quality. I also have two beautiful best friends who are virgins cuz they haven't found good men. Both are beautiful and smart. One is 24, the other is 21. I have been single for a year because nobody good enough has come along. I rather be single my whole life than settle for some schmuck.
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Submitted by Cocoa Mocha Sugar on June 17, 2008 - 4:09pm

I had no idea it was that bad out there.

I think its cool that you wait for someone you really want instead of just laying down with any jerk that comes your way.

Its the mature thing to do, I see so many kids out there that risk it all to get their rocks off.

I say vibrate higher people. Actually Andre said that and i just repeat it.

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Even Old Man Fonda is sick of this shit.

yes, that scene was the HOTNESS. brokeback mountain, what????? lol

Submitted by Cocoa Mocha Sugar on June 17, 2008 - 4:08pm
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What usher is saying is absolutely true for millions of black women.

ive been single and abstinient for 10 years, due to not finding a quality man. And by quality, im not saying he has to be rich. Just not fresh out of prison, he has to have a job, and have all of his fingers and toes, plus a cool personality. he wouldn't have to be knock down handsome, or anything extreme. just a decent human being.

i have a friend who is still a virgin and she's almost 30, due to not finding a decent man.

i've known women who have never had boyfriends. and none of us were ugly women or unsuccessful women.

the problem is not only a lack of men, but a lack of quality men.

i've accepted my spinsterhood and currently dont' give a fuck anymore. slowly, over the years i no longer have pretensions about who i date. just who i love, male or female.

LOL @ "Dumbassery"
she is horsey looking. she prolly uses a strap-on...feed bag, that is. yuk

Is it so hard for Usher to believe that not everyone likes to eat salchicha and that to some, cat licking can be very addictive?...

Methinks he's spent too much time on his knees getting prostate massages to notice how things work outside the realm of his arsehole.

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Submitted by Fucking_Classy on June 17, 2008 - 3:52pm.
Submitted by Mel-Tang on June 18, 2008 - 3:46am.

May i interest the two of you in some baked clams back at my trailer?

Id like to see you hug it out in front of my hidden camera, i mean remote control cozy.

Smooches hookers :)

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Even Old Man Fonda is sick of this shit.

You can always rely on a closet case to say something totally fucking stupid and offensive about homosexuality.

LMAO!!!!!!!

he totally married a MAN!!!

Submitted by Mel-Tang on June 18, 2008 - 3:46am.
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Oh, I only saw your post now.

Yeah, none of our posts were very clear. I just said what I said because your post seemed exactly like so many others I have seen, "all men are scum" and what-not. So now I understand what you really said, I agree with you.

And you know why our posts are not very clear? Because they're just silly posts, not fucking essays! Misunderstandings are meant to happen.

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I can do better than that...my conservative friend doesn't let her son wear sunscreen because she saw on one fundamentalist website that it has "estrogenizing effects." So apparently it is worse to be gay than to have cancer. Nice.
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Submitted by mike on June 17, 2008 - 3:48pm.
So what's his excuse for marrying someone nearly old enough to be his mom?

He got the message from PETA that there was a stranded couger in a kill shelter, and well, the rest is history.

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Even Old Man Fonda is sick of this shit.

So what's his excuse for marrying someone nearly old enough to be his mom?

Submitted by Stoney on June 18, 2008 - 3:41am.
Submitted by Fucking_Classy on June 17, 2008 - 2:36pm.

Hey, I'm plenty chill. You were the one raging in here like a banshee calling people sexist. I think after being on here for three years I understand what type of site this is, but thanks for giving us all a clue, Captian Obvious.
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I never called her sexist, I said her comment was.

Oh, no point in discussing this crap. It's getting boring.

I'm outta here.

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