Roseanne Wasn't Done
Roseanne already delivered her sermon on the RiRi/Brown situation, but she wasn't done! Nope, there's more crazy to go around and it sounds like she's sort of taking back her original rant. Roseanne gets deep into it and it's kind of a wild ride. One minute, I'm riding along with her and then she makes a sharp left and totally loses me, but picks me back up at the stop sign.
This shit really crawled into her head, because it sounds like she's about to write a book on it even though she doesn't have any of the facts. Maybe she can read minds? Here's Roseanne's latest thesis:
women who go back to men who have hit them are usually violent too--they escalate conflict by using verbal humiliation and often throw the first punch, but are then unable to withstand the strength of the man's counter attack.
Alot of guys hit women because the women are hitting them, verbally abusing them or throwing the keys to their car outside and goading them on, and they lose control of themselves. This is what it sounds like to be in the rhianna-chris brown affair. there is no way out of violence if you are violent. the only way to win is not to play the game.
In the later stages, she won't leave because her will is destroyed, and a violent line crossed, because once the guy threatens to kill her, it becomes almost impossible for her to leave.
i hope rhianna is getting counseling from a professional counselor who will tell her that there is no way for her to ever win, and that she will have to curtail her own penchant for escalating conflict by screaming at or hitting or humiliating her abuser. I hope he gets real counseling too, that is not from a minister or his mom or any other shame based bullshit method that will never work, and that is designed to avoid dealing directly with self-control issues. I hope that they both leave each other alone and get over their faults.
I hope she does not continue to play the game with him. If they still love each other after they learn self control and conflict resolution, then they can get back together.
Move over, Marilyn Kagan! Didn't it feel like you should be reading that while lying on a leather sofa and periodically checking the clock to see when your hour is up? Unfortunately, I didn't walk away with a prescription for some strong shit after reading Roseanne's rant. But I will probably get a bill in the mail.
And Chris shouldn't get counseling from his pastor or mom. He should get it from Dr. Roseanne! But I have a feeling it would just end with his chopped off nuts in her hands.