Kandi Buruss' Ex-Fiance A.J. Jewell Has Died

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/8256589.stm

Thanks for the link, El Bastardo. I do love him and hope he is able to get back into some killer high-heeled boots again soon!

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I'm not really that smart, it's just that everyone else is so damn stupid!

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I can't believe these posts. It takes a very sad maybe abused or just self-righteous person to make comments about the death of ANYONE. Who are we to judge if he owned a strip club or not who really cares. Here's a question, unless you are a virgin please don't judge those who have had the luxury of having sex. I mean VIRGIN not born again because those don't count. We should pray for the children that have been left behind. Heck we all have a story to tell but let's not allow our dead beat dads actions cloud our judgemnt of all men. By the way the young lady who made the most out landish comments should probably try counseling for HERSELF. It truly can help YOU get over what must be deep rooted pain caused by your own childhood. This isn't the forum for that save that for your therapy sessions.

I am so sorry for AJ's children, to lose a dad is a terrible thing.

I am sorry Kandi is hurting as well but I can't help thinking that she dodged the bullet on that one.

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I'm not really that smart, it's just that everyone else is so damn stupid!

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Heartbreaking...Poor Kandi. May he rest in peace. :( My thoughts and prayers are with her and AJ's children.

The comments on this thread are gross. How do you know that he spent all of his time at strip clubs? And someone who goes there is somehow less of a father? And so what if he had a bunch of baby mamas? That doesn't mean that those children didn't receive love or knew how much their father loved them. None of you know how he lived and knew only about him from the show (and quite a few claim not to watch it but still feel free to comment on his life!). Some of you are so judgmental (and probably hypocritical). And worse, you're not funny.

Our king of meanness, M.K., wished the man to rest in peace, for God's sake.

@jizzballz:I, too, own a strip club, three hotels, a restaurant, Boardwalk, St. Charles Place and 4 railroads. Go fish. King me. Uno.

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Whatever you say, sweetie.

Your husband wouldn't let you own more than a shred of toilet paper to wipe your ass.

@leonard mckelvey:AJ is someone's father and son some of these comments are classless. This is so sad.

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It is sad. However, if I had to guess, I would say there are six different woman who are the mother's of his children and maybe if he had spent more time keeping his dick in his pants and not hanging out at strip clubs maybe he'd be with us today.

AJ is someone's father and son some of these comments are classless. This is so sad.

I, too, own a strip club, three hotels, a restaurant, Boardwalk, St. Charles Place and 4 railroads. Go fish. King me. Uno.

First of all, I am very sorry. Truly.

Secondly, ummm are they posting in the middle of empty railroad tracks?

If that ain't a case of foreshadowing, I don't know what is.

@ LisaH on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 9:21pm.

i'm totally confused "ex" fiance? when had they broken up? and why does she refer to him as her uncle?

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In interviews, given by both, Kandi and A.J. said their engagement was on hiatus for now...

Seems like Kandi ALSO has to attend an uncle's funeral, in addition to dealing with this tragedy. That's how I read the tweets. :-(

"Night-night. Keep your butt-hole tight!"

i'm totally confused "ex" fiance? when had they broken up? and why does she refer to him as her uncle?

Sad... so very sad. I feel horrible for everyone involved. I heart Kandi~

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Submitted by TruGemini on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 7:12pm.

All of these negative comments for someone who died that none of you know. I do know AJ and I am friends with his ex-wife. Her son just lost his father. A very good father. None of you know him personally. He took care of his kids. SIX kids are without a father today. Just remember that. How many of us can really judge? None of us are perfect. It doesn't matter if he was at a strip club or not. He lost his life. My condolonces go out to his family & friends who loved him.
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Someone who ACTUALLY KNOWS A.J. - Thank you for weighing in.

"Night-night. Keep your butt-hole tight!"

All of these negative comments for someone who died that none of you know. I do know AJ and I am friends with his ex-wife. Her son just lost his father. A very good father. None of you know him personally. He took care of his kids. SIX kids are without a father today. Just remember that. How many of us can really judge? None of us are perfect. It doesn't matter if he was at a strip club or not. He lost his life. My condolonces go out to his family & friends who loved him.

Chocoagogo, Kandi is no pushover. Just cuz she's softspoken and humble don't mean shit. She's a fighter. You don't become as successful as she is by being weak or a pushover. I'm sure she'll make sure the kids are ok, but I doubt she'd have this tragedy impede on her life or career in any way. Kandi is much stronger than that.

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I have never seen this show, but for people to make such crude comments about someone who just passed is really fucked up. He had six children, we don't know what kind of father he was, but I am sure his kids will miss him dearly and are going to be in a lot of pain. To those who made the comments, wouldn't it be wonderful if someone said that about your father if he was killed...

And the world is a little better...

Damn! I really like Kandi, from what I've seen of her on Househos of Atlanta. I really hope she doesn't get saddled with all of his children. I know she already has legal custody of two of his girls (twins) because their mother is a deadbeat or some nonsense. She seems like the kind of poor pushover that will just take them all in now and *poof* their goes her life! And prob. all her savings. :-/
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Wait...what are we talking about here?
Whats all this about his style as a father and calling him a dead beat etc?
I for one don't know this man or the way he lived his life. All I know is hes dead, and that sucks for him, his, family, and friends. Period.
Lets save up the hatred and and the need to get onto a soap box about dead beat dads for another time. For all anyone knows, ALL 6 of his children lived with HIM.
As far as the stripping goes, who cares. Everybodys naked under their clothes. How nudity became immoral is beyond me. And, to the poster who said a community got their strip club next door owner to move—yeah right! In which century?

A friend of mine lives in a million dollar neighborhood and a strip club owner moved in a few door down from her. He was regularly seen exiting his limo with several half dressed women in the daytime.
The neighbors eventually, and with a joint effort, made it clear to him that he was NOT welcome in their neighborhood and he sold his house and moved.
Just because you employ people does not make you socially acceptable!

Bartender! ...

"Night-night. Keep your butt-hole tight!"

Miss Thang, I see your point. However, I would be mortified to find out that my father was a strip-club owner.

I'm not DEFENDING A DEADBEAT, because I don't know A.J.
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I can tell you that he was a deadbeat, not because I knew him personally, but because he obviously had children without regard for their emotional wellbeing. It is not ok to bring so many children into this world, yet give most, if not all of them, no stable environment with 24/7 father. No matter how much child support he paid and how many of the 6 or 8 he had custody of, he was irresponsible and careless with other peoples' lives, namely these innocent children he brought into the world. He WAS a deadbeat. What if a woman had had 8 children with 4 men and had left each child with their father, or perhaps had custody of 2 of them, and would just send checks (subsidized by her stripping duties) and "visit" them a few times a week/month/year? Would you consider her to have made a number of irresponsible and careless decisions in regards to other peoples' lives? I would dare say YES.

Kelly Taylor: Well we all have our crosses to bear.
Brenda Walsh: Or our legs to uncross.

-----episode 3.14 "Wild Horses," Beverly Hills 90210

Is spreading your seed just a male-chauvinstic pig kinda thing? What is the mind-set of a man who has 6 children with different women? And what kind of woman hooks up with a guy who’s already legally liable for multiple children and their multiple mothers???

You people are sick.

I bet his 6 kids don't give an F that their dad owned a strip club. All they care about is the fact he's not here anymore!

Grow a fucking heart.

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Submitted by Brenda DuBois on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 3:20pm
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I'm not DEFENDING A DEADBEAT, because I don't know A.J. personally, I didn't know you did though. My bad. I thought Kandi Buruss had the 411 on that.
I echo the same sentiment as some others on here do... I feel sorry that his children are without a father and that he's dead... Anything else regarding his character or how he conceived his kids is speculation at this point.

I'm agreeing to RESPECTFULLY disagree with you. Not saying you do at all, but I don't judge people whose situations I know nothing about. Not how I roll. That's not defending anybody, it's me keeping an open mind, and being sympathetic towards a tragic situation that has apparently left someone dead, and has affected several people in the process. That is all.

"Night-night. Keep your butt-hole tight!"

Um, I would say, his priorities were with making money. He was a club/event promoter and PART OWNER of said strip club. I would think that if I owned a business, it would not be far-fetched to think that I would be there.

The world is so judgemental, I tell ya.
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Yes, I will judge those who are irresponsible and careless parents, those who have children without regard for their emotional and physical well-being. I was someone who was raised with such parents, parents whose own pursuits, desires and urges came before mine at every turn. I am still scarred and bitter, but everyday I try to move beyond my pain. I will judge those who treat their children this way or are irresponsible in having children. Nothing you could say could make me stand up and respect one who has so carelessly victimized so many others.

Kelly Taylor: Well we all have our crosses to bear.
Brenda Walsh: Or our legs to uncross.

-----episode 3.14 "Wild Horses," Beverly Hills 90210

Submitted by lily whiteass on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 9:20am.
if a father has 6 or 8 kids , he should be home with them, not in a strip club. or saving his money that he'd spend in the strip club and putting it into an eduction fund for their college. whats with peoples priorities?
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Um, I would say, his priorities were with making money. He was a club/event promoter and PART OWNER of said strip club. I would think that if I owned a business, it would not be far-fetched to think that I would be there.

The world is so judgemental, I tell ya.

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Sadness.

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Dear, I didn't say aspiring to become a drug kingpin was a LOFTY GOAL... I said He COULD'VE been a drug kingpin, and sold drugs as a means to an end... to support his kids... as in, owning a strip club is LEGITIMATE and legal, whether we agree with it or not. I guess I was a little opaque in how I crafted my point.

Either way, I tend to not judge people, esp. as an outsider, who's watching peripherally. I don't know that he exploited the women he had children with, and neither do you. I do know he was MARRIED to one of the women who bore a few/a couple? of his kids. Bottom line... he's dead, and his children are without their father. Who cares if he owned/worked at a strip club?

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Sweetheart, Yes he could have been a drug dealer and I could have also been the next Britney Spears. I don't understand your point. You said it was a lesser of two evils for him to employ women as glorified prostitutes, yet, you seem to not understand that he had as many options open to him as many of us do. Why did he only have those two career options to choose from? And why was he engaging in violent behavior? Was the perpetrator totally unprovoked and were both men involved totally sober? Do you know the answer to these questions?

I can say that I DO know that he exploited women. Firstly he impregnated and left them. Secondly, he owned a strip club, where, presumably, women took their clothes off and gyrated on men for money. Thirdly, he didn't care enough about those children (and their respective mothers) to stop having more kids after the first. Why would it matter if he was married to one of the four mothers if he left her anyway? I am not judging him, but I am merely stating that he was nothing to behold and did, in fact, make a number of careless, impulsive and irresponsible decisions in his life. Maybe instead of defending a deadbeat, you should be more concerned with the victims of his (and many others') carelessness, namely the 6 children who were born into this world without regard for their emotional well-being (and perhaps financial and physical well-being)?

Kelly Taylor: Well we all have our crosses to bear.
Brenda Walsh: Or our legs to uncross.

-----episode 3.14 "Wild Horses," Beverly Hills 90210

Submitted by Brenda DuBois on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 2:58pm.
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Dear, I didn't say aspiring to become a drug kingpin was a LOFTY GOAL... I said He COULD'VE been a drug kingpin, and sold drugs as a means to an end... to support his kids... as in, owning a strip club is LEGITIMATE and legal, whether we agree with it or not. I guess I was a little opaque in how I crafted my point.

Either way, I tend to not judge people, esp. as an outsider, who's watching peripherally. I don't know that he exploited the women he had children with, and neither do you. I do know he was MARRIED to one of the women who bore a few/a couple? of his kids. Bottom line... he's dead, and his children are without their father. Who cares if he owned/worked at a strip club?

"Night-night. Keep your butt-hole tight!"

S-A-D, no matter how you work the angle.

It would seem like the likeliest thing to do, but why knock someone's hustle, when they're doing the most lucrative thing they can, to provide for their gaggle of kids? He could've been a drug kingpin, so I think co-owning/owning a strip club is the lesser of the two evils.

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Wow, if taking care of your kids financially to some degree and NOT being a drug-king pin are now considered lofty goals to aspire to or things to be heralded for, we need some help as a society. He was a man that had no regard for the value of a child, the nurturing and emotional care one needs from both parents. He was too concerned with proclaiming a sort feigned virility, using children as notches on his bedposts, in an ignorant, careless and male-dominated environment. The fact that he exploited women ( in effort to perhaps look for his next baby-momma?) for money and wrote a check (hopefully) to support a few or all of his bastard children, is not enough for me to stand up and sing his praises. He was a deadbeat.

Kelly Taylor: Well we all have our crosses to bear.
Brenda Walsh: Or our legs to uncross.

-----episode 3.14 "Wild Horses," Beverly Hills 90210

Submitted by putsomestankonit on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 2:45pm.

Submitted by Coffey on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 2:43pm.

Well maybe when you have a gaggle of kids its time to get out of owning business such as strip clubs?
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It would seem like the likeliest thing to do, but why knock someone's hustle, when they're doing the most lucrative thing they can, to provide for their gaggle of kids? He could've been a drug kingpin, so I think co-owning/owning a strip club is the lesser of the two evils.

"Night-night. Keep your butt-hole tight!"

re: Assuming this was black-on-black crime, when will the so-called leaders of the black community going to take on violence within its community? Instead of slamming Bill Crosby for his comments on responsibility, can't the black community look within itself to do something about the wave of violence?
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Hon, I here where you're coming from, I really do... but crime (black on black, white on white whatever on whatever) is a reality in today's cult of personality, unfortunately. It's a universal epidemic lately, It's not a matter of the BLACK COMMUNITY taking responsibility for what a bunch of violent thugs do to each other. Did a whole community of people take responsibility for the man who shot up the all female exercise group, in Pennsylvania? No, they didn't.
A COMMUNITY of people is NOT to blame for the actions of what others do. While strides are being made to fix what ails people, I think people in general need to LOOK WITHIN THEMSELVES before they go berserk.

"Night-night. Keep your butt-hole tight!"

Submitted by Coffey on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 2:43pm.

Well maybe when you have a gaggle of kids its time to get out of owning business such as strip clubs?

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FYI to people who aren't aware of the details of or don't watch the show...
While 6 kids by several different women is a lot... um, Rock stars and other Celebs (Christie Brinkley, Mick Jagger anyone?) have a bunch of dads/moms per every child they have too... Not saying it's right or wrong, just suggesting he's NOT the ONLY person who has several different children by diff. folks.

Also, AJ owned the strip club, which would probably explain why he was there... as well as various other businesses. He also worked in the music industry... and had sole custody of TWO of his children...
So he WAS taking care of them. Just saying. Realize, before you spew.

"Night-night. Keep your butt-hole tight!"

He had part ownership in that strip club as well as other clubs in the Atlanta area. That's how he was feeding his six children. He had custody of two of them with Kandi.

6 children and he was fighting in a strip club? Ummm. Next. Role Model Fail.

Luckily the kids were never used to having him around to begin with...

He was out at a strip club (WTF?), getting into fist fights, and wasted, with 4 baby-mommas and 6 kids at home.

RIP AJ, what a kind, considerate soul you were. Your legacy will live on forever in your childrens' hearts...as they try to figure out why their daddy didn't care enough about them to stay around and raise them/help their mommy.

Kelly Taylor: Well we all have our crosses to bear.
Brenda Walsh: Or our legs to uncross.

-----episode 3.14 "Wild Horses," Beverly Hills 90210

People forget a simple punch can kill ya..here in Austin some fuckheads have a gang initiation kind of thing (cops think at least that is what it is) of 'Punch and run' crimes. Most happen downtown on 6th street, night when most people are bar hopping. A guy or men will come up and punch the shit out of you totally unprovoked. One guy died last year - 22 or something from one punch.

I have no idea who these people are but it's sad.
And I'm with you Evil Shoe how the fuck is anyone on Twitter? If I died and people who loved me were on twitter, myspacing, etc. I'd be so pissed I'd have to come back and haunt them. Hide their keys or some shit.

Submitted by EvilShoe on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 12:45pm.
I'm still baffled as to why she is on Twitter. A friend of mine from middle school's mom was murdered a few weeks ago and I can guarantee you the last thing on his mind was twittering, myspacing or facebooking it.
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i personally HATE twitter but she does have a (fanbase?) and people sometimes deal with grief in weird ways but yeah i'm mostly with you on the whole twittering at death thing....

...and an arrest has been made. Strip club employee - Police said Fredrick Richardson, an employee at the strip club, is charged with voluntary manslaughter and currently being held at Grady Detention in connection with the crime. Authorities said Richardson, who was also injured, will be transported to the Fulton County Jail once he is cleared by medical personnel

This is tragic to read about--I really don't keep up this particular show, but Kandi was my favorite.

Prayers and positive thoughts go out to Kandi, her friends, and loved ones, as well as to her fiance, AJ and his people on this terribly sad occasion.

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I'm still baffled as to why she is on Twitter. A friend of mine from middle school's mom was murdered a few weeks ago and I can guarantee you the last thing on his mind was twittering, myspacing or facebooking it.

Something nice: He had a pretty smile.

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This ain't my first rodeo, cowboy.

Pretty sad. I actually like Kandi.